Buy the F*cking Lilies: And Other Tools to Fix Your Life, from Someone Who's Been There

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I’ve already been recommending it to my IRL friends :) I don’t often read self-improvement (aka self-help), but now and again I’ll come across one that really speaks to me. We don’t share your credit card details with third-party sellers, and we don’t sell your information to others. The third time, from the context, I realized she was trying to say “right now,” and apparently didn’t have the time or space to be clear about this.

What I admire about this book over other self-help bestsellers I won’t name is that Schuster is not ignoring the validity of mental illness as an obstacle. Firstly I’m surprised if the author has any wall space left as she seems to stick almost everything to her walls and doors. She is ready in every chapter to admit how she ended up there, inexcusably hungover and covered in some of her vomit, and equally ready to say “hey I know I was a mess, but I want to help you like my friends helped me, so have you tried ___? I'm sure Tara is a cool person with great things to say - I just wish she hadn't presented it to everyone as self care.To calculate the overall star rating and percentage breakdown by star, we don’t use a simple average. a white, abled, highly educated person who could afford the benefit of therapy in her twenties wants to let us know that if *she* “can be HAPPY. Over the next five years, Schuster examined every facet of her life, and by consulting other self-help books and trusting the wisdom that emerged from her own journalling efforts, she was able to find her way to a form of self-love that enabled her to then shine love out into the world as well (it's really not as cheesy as that sounds).

This book also emphasizes the importance of self-reflection and self-care, which I also think are really important. No one knew that her road to adulthood had been paved with depression, anxiety, and shame, owing in large part to her minimally parented upbringing. However, her language oscillates back and forth between well-crafted thoughts and internet abbreviations. The second half of the book I didn't connect with at all; no one is ever going to convince me to go on HIKES and I've been in a stable relationship since I was seventeen so those chapters just.I'm loving this book, i was going through some emotional issues at the moment i bought it and it was so calming, funny and conforting, i wasn't familiar with the author but she definitely made an impact in my life. Writing a book isn’t a personal goal of mine but this “book” shows me that anyone can publish a “book” , even if they don’t bother much with the writing part. There are moments when the author realizes her privilege, but most of the time, I think the things she has to say come off as incredibly tone deaf.