Get Divorced, Be Happy: How becoming single turned out to be my happily ever after

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From August 2021-December 2021, he became extremely emotionally abusive and very distant from our love life. It felt like someone was repeatedly slapping me across the face with the reality that I hadn’t been good enough for him, and that I was worthless enough to be cheated on. Yes, before I found out about him cheating, I did everything in my power to avoid divorce (which I why I stayed for so many months.

Get Divorced, Be Happy: How becoming single turned out to be

There are many reasons women file for a divorce and not all of those reasons have anything to do with falling out of love or no longer being happy in the marriage. But thankfully in Get Divorced Be Happy, Helen Thorn offers us another, balanced and more pleasing, perspective. And this book provides you with a great grounding on what’s what when you’re considering divorce or separation.

The ones who suffer have done nothing wrong, and it’s my deepest soul’s desire to ensure that everyone knows that. I still feel bad for the hurt I caused, and I have, on occasion, missed his kindness, but I remain convinced that our marriage would have grown biter and miserable.

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He got offered a job in his home county, so at the age of 23 I moved for him to be able to work, I left all my friends and family behind for a fresh start. Like a best mate in a book to guide you through hell – and out the other side via belly laughs, firefighters and finding joy in a new way of living” ― Helen Russell. A couple were happy until they were not and irreconcilable differences aren’t reserved for the middle-aged. This also reads as a ‘I’m not perfect but here’s what I learned along the way to becoming a stronger version of myself’ book so even if you’re not separating/divorcing (I’m not), you can still feel Helen’s empowerment as she navigates though her new situation and apply it to your own life. How did your friends and family react when you told them, was there anyone who said you should stick it out because you were young?

They, meaning him and his family, tried to make me pray, get dressed by their rules, eat by their rules, do everything by their rules. I have never found anyone I loved nearly as much as my ex-husband; it taught me the grass is definitely not greener on the other side. Leaving my partner has resulted in my parents pretty much cutting ties with me and they have stayed in contact with my partner. Getting it out was a massive help for me and is what made me realise I was sticking around for all the wrong reasons. I work full time and I also have endometriosis and PCOS and struggle with pain daily and it’s getting worse, as nothing is working.

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Eventually, I went to 18 months of couple counselling to try to save my marriage (I had two young kids) but it wasn’t enough. They are more comfortable with the idea of going it alone, choosing a course of action they believe in and moving forward. He was a really toxic person who liked to blame everything on me and never agreed or admitted to his mistakes. Join Sareta and her special guest, Harriet Shearsmith, Author, Blogger and Podcaster, as they delve into narcissistic mother and adult-daughter dynamics. Instead, the new law will simply introduce the requirement to provide a statement of irretrievable breakdown.

I now look at my marriage and know, very confidently, that yes, we were definitely not good for each other. Don’t underestimate how hard divorce will be, but don’t limit yourself (and your kids if you have them) to a life of misery either. Altogether a positive tone and a book that will probably make you smile, but don't expect to be able to relate to it. There’s no one else to answer to, no one to consider aside from the kids and suddenly plenty of free time again. We asked our readers about whether they had any regrets and what it really feels like to walk away from a loved one.